I have a couple of neighbors that live in my compound yet work for my landlord and one of them is a 10 yr old girl named
Madaline, or Mada for short...
Yesterday, I was crushed because out of my bedroom window I witnessed this young girl being beaten with a wire hanger by her older sibling and then by her mother. They were trying to force her up the hill and out of our compound gate. Since I don't know enough Malagasy I asked a friend that was visiting what they were saying and she said it was something about not leaving with her friends. We went back to our time with each other and the screaming and beating soon stopped.
Today, the same scene happened, and I was very concerned. This young girl was doing everything she could do to not leave with the older boy that came for her. I found out later that the boy is her older sibling and he just came to walk her to school. You see school just started last week for them both but because of crowding he is going to school in the mornings and Mada is scheduled to go in the afternoons.
The scene got ugly fast and after Mada finished kicking and screaming and laying down on the road so that she did not have to leave with her brother, the father came out with his belt and started giving her a flogging of a lifetime. I could not watch anymore, asked my house helper what was going on and she replied "she doesn't want to go to school". As I made sure that the family could see me watching from my yard I was praying that GOD would allow something to happen so that this would stop.
I contacted a friend that used to be the principal of a large school here and asked her what I should do, or if I should just stay out of the mess because I was after all a foreigner and she is a young Malagasy girl. I could be crossing the culture boundary and do more harm than good. After about an hour of the beating and the crying I asked my friend to come over and see if the parents would talk with us. It was arranged with my limited Malagasy through my house helper talking to the parents. They agreed and were very happy to have someone help from the outside.
After a meeting with the parents in my home, with my friend the former principal we asked all the probing questions that we thought to ask and then asked the child to come in to meet with us without the parents (we had the parents permission to do this). Come to find out Mada has been tormented by other children at the school, teased and bullied. She would rather have many lashes of a belt and wire hanger than go and face the other children again. This was tugging at my heart. It was a very hard dynamic for me because I wanted to just meet with the family and make changes, yet the wisdom of my friend who was not only the former principal of a different school but a Malagasy herself was incredible. When I asked ridiculous things she did not translate, or if I asked something that was going to get me into a position of commitment to something financially then she guided my words and carefully helped me see what the family would see because of us getting involved.
The day was a success, Mada agreed with a thumb to thumb pact with both me and the principal to attend school the next day. If the children were still giving her a hard time, my friend the principal would go to the school herself and talk with the teachers and the students if she needed to. We were also blessed with time to sit with the parents and let them know that there are other ways to get to the root of issues. Listening to a child and understanding that it is important to hear what they have to say. Especially a child that really has a history of obeying through all situations, this one being new to them, they resorted to beating way to quickly.
I am praising the Lord for this opportunity to get down on Madaline's level, listen to her heart, ask the right questions and see where we could meet her need. Not meeting a financial need, or placing her higher on a social level, yet just listening to her, validating her feelings and helping her and her parents see that there are other ways to work through tough issues.
Looking forward to what GOD will do in this relationship that has just been forged and after one year of living on this property and trying to get to know that family - now GOD has allowed an in, a very special way into their lives.